So the well-worn parental reassurance that "sticks and stones will break your bones, but names will never hurt you" is false, these scientists say. So I decided to change that saying and make it my title.August 4, I faced a major surgery. Being a doctor does not exclude me from having fears that I might not be able to wake up post op or that my histopath would be malignant since I have inside me a very fast growing tumor. I thank God that I am still here writing this post.
Its my fault I pushed myself to the limit I went back to work a week after my surgery. 14 days later I was crippled with this excruciating pain in my post operative site that I was not able to report for duty.
"Physical pain obviously serves a purpose: It's uncomfortable and distressing, but it's a signal that something's wrong, that we need to take action to fix it," says UCLA psychologist Naomi Eisenberger.
I then decided that I should be taking care of my health if I wanted to take care of my patients and my family. I then filed an emergency 60-day leave which I am entitled to according to the Magna Carta for Women.
I announced my leave to my co workers today at morning gathering
" Good Morning!"
I have a few announcements to make. Please bear with me this will not take so much of your time.
I will be leaving you for a while.
As you all know I underwent major surgery last August 4 and thinking I can recover within a week I went back to work besides I was shy to ask the bosses for longer leave because I am not an employee I dont have leave credits. But last August 28 I exprerienced severe pain on my post operative site that I was not able to report. Last Tuesday I asked the boss to grant me a 60 day leave and I am very thankful they understood my situation. So yesterday I had a check up with my OB-GYN to make my leave official. So I am filling my emergency leave effective Sept 11.
I am telling you this for 2 reasons.
1. For patient scheduling, for old patients that I am treating please coordinate it with me ahead so I can squeeze them all in one day if possible. For new patients just give them to the doctor on duty. For gyne cases like genital warts please please schedule them after I come back so I can maximize my leave. In case we don't have any other options just let me know and I will drop by to see the patient.
2. The other reason is I don't want you to assume, pressume and speculate. I am not suspended. I am not terminated. I am not asked to resign. I want to stress this out because I dont want you to be spreading wrong things about me.
Regarding the incident last Friday, I did not claim excess OT, I only claimed what I work for. I provided the bosses a copy of my OT with the list of the names of the patients and the excat number of hours I treat them. If you want to see it I can provide you a copy. I am thankful to have bosses who does not believe in the accusations. They knew where the problem is coming from.
I worked hard to establish my name and I will never let anyone destroy it. I will not damage my name and reputation for a small amount of money. Like you I can only request for OT pay. It is not my fault if the money was released without the signature of the boss.
Hindi ba kayo nahihiya kapwa tayo Filipino nagsisiraan tayo para magpalakas sa boss? ( Arent you ashamed we are fellow Filipinos yet we stab each other at the back just to get the bosses attention)
I am sorry If I am crying. My husband told me not to cry but I really felt bad with whats happening. Since Friday I have been hearing rumors about me and it is only today that I redeem myself.
While on leave I will still work for the company. I will continue to work with the marketing for the stretchmark promo, I will work with creative designs for the website update, I am working with paralegal officer for the machine importation and I am working with International sales manager of IPS for the distributorship. These are the things I do for the company at no extra cost. So if you have any concerns about these just let me know.
For those who wished and prayed hard for me to leave the company I am sorry to disappoint you. Those who prayed hard for me to have a different fate, I suggest you pray harder...pray harder.
If you want a copy of what I said I can provide you so there will no addition and deduction of words.
Thank you for your time and I hope when I come back there will be a more harmonious relationship here. See you all on November 10."
That was my speech. It showed that emotional pain is more painful than physical pain.Though emotional pain and physical pain share the same neural pathway. I think words hurt more especially if the words are not true.
Nice post from this link:
chrome://newtabhttp//articles.latimes.com/2011/apr/04/health/la-he-mood-pain-20110404
excerpt of which is...
"People talk about the sting of social rejection as if it were a physical pain. We feel "burned" by a partner's infidelity, "wounded" by a friend's harsh words, "crushed" when a loved one fails us, "heartache" when spurned by a lover.
There's a reason for that linguistic conflation, says a growing community of pain researchers: In our brains too, physical and social pain share much the same neural circuitry. In many ways, in fact, your brain may scarcely make a distinction between a verbal and physical insult."
Let me end this post with a saying from a psychologist...
"I think we can say the same about social pain: It motivates us to reconnect socially and avoid social rejection in the future."-says UCLA psychologist Naomi Eisenberger
