Loving Someone Unconditionally...

They say that "a woman is like a tea bag you will never know how strong she is unless you put her in hot water"

Loving someone is not easy...it includes understanding, patience, sacrifice and when you love unconditionally you don't expect anything in return..

Have you ever loved unconditionally?

I have found this beautiful poem in the internet written anonymously. I felt that she loved him unconditionally no matter how he treats her. She loved him just the same and more.

Let me share it with you.

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I have loved someone unconditionally.Have you?
... I tell you it makes me feel good but it also hurts...

For him I wanted to become the best person I can be.
I wanted to be the person he dreamed of spending his lifetime with.
Someone who will always understand him
Someone who will always support him in his work.
Someone who promised him to be always there whenever he needed me.
Someone who will always make love to him whenever he wanted to.
Someone who will never leave his side and will love him forever.

Today, I realized it was such a big responsibility.
I get hurt several times but I have never given up
I will never give up on him
I will only leave if he wanted me to get out of his life.

I have showered him with all the love I can give to the best that I could
I am not expecting him to do the same.
But sometimes sad days happens 
when you as a person also wanted to feel the same attention you are giving.

It feels heavy on the chest but you can't do anything but hold on
I wanted him to be happy and to feel good, 
for me to fill the missing pieces in his life
and make him a better person
I wanted him to be proud of himself
and for him to know that I make a big difference in his life.

Sometimes I loose hope because situation sucks 
and I have to wait for things to get better. 
Loving him is a sacrifice.
I have waited for so many hours just to be with him and yet
I have to wait some more for a few minutes he can spare.
And since I don't want him to feel the pressure
I have to give way and let go.
I am not asking for so much...
and yet after all those waiting it seems very hard for him
to tell me how much he loves me...not even once today..
Not even once today did he tell me he loves me.
I never failed to tell him how much I love him.
Sometimes I even feel he doesn't feel it anymore because he often hears it.

If he only said it once today..
It could've changed the way I feel
It could've make me feel better
I could've have stayed waiting even if he bury himself at work 
or leave his desk for a chain of meetings
I could've waited just like what I usually do.
And I would always understand.
He doesn't know that just watching him is fine with me.
But since I don't want to add pressure to his work 
I gave him space.
I don't want to think that he has changed.
Before he would tell me I don't disturb him 
and it is ok for me to stay
but today he never said anything...
so there's nothing left for me to do but leave.

I chose to love him unconditionally 
so I have no right to demand for a little time 
or expect him to treat me just the same.

Like a tea bag he puts me in hot water and it makes me stronger 
but like a tea bag the longer you put it in hot water 
it looses its taste. 
I don't want this to happen to me 
I don't want to loose this "love" I have for him
I will never let it happen to us.
And even if I get hurt 
I will continue loving him unconditionally...
This is my commitment...
And I will hold on to it as long as I can.

-Anonymous-

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I hope that it is not so hard like this to love someone unconditionally.

I have loved my husband with my whole heart but with it are the many conditions that binds our marriage. I hope I will learn to love him unconditionally without expecting anything in return.

How to Achieve Orgasm and enjoy every minute of it!

In so many years that I have been counseling couples, I have learned how to explain facts by sharing my own experiences. It is my way of connecting to my patients. For them not to feel intimidated sharing their sexual experiences I have to reach out first and make them feel comfortable to open up. And I have mastered this breaking the ice thing.I always believed that for me to be able to relate I myself should know what I am talking about. 

Do you wonder why most of the mothers wanted a pediatrician who is also a mom? it is because they wanted someone who can feel what they feel when their child is sick..its easier to understand if you have the experience.

How can I be talking about orgasms to patients when I myself have not experienced it?

I remember one patient of mine who have children already and she opened up to me that until now she doesn't know how to achieve orgasm. I was not shocked but I pity her so much.


(The following paragraphs are very sensitive please continue reading if you don't get offended easily with erotic words)
First for you to be able to know if you achieved orgasm you must know how it feels. Its good to read books and surf the internet so you know the varied experiences. But attainment of pleasure differs. What is pleasurable for me may not be pleasurable to you.

There are actually ways on how to achieve orgasm:

1. Explore yourself...know your trigger points...by trigger points I mean the points that makes you weak...you should be able to identify them even without the help of your partner. 
  
For me, I get aroused by the following: 

- A whisper in the ear or feeling the breathing of my partner in the sides and back of my neck.

- A kiss in the neck

- A lick in the earlobe

2. Set the mood. Making love is not the time to talk about differences otherwise you will ruin everything and not achieve your goals. By setting the mood I mean make the moment conducive to making love. Romantic couples would scatter rose petals, light up scented candles or play sweet music. This is quite ideal and moving for new couples but in long term relationship sometimes what is difficult is to keep the fire burning. 


What sets the mood for me and which lures me further in wanting to consummate the act is simple, it is a point when he would look deeply in my eyes and communicate how much he wanted me, it triggers an electrical reaction that send shivers down my spine, my mind spinning and telling me I love this person so much and I wanted to do this act with him. 


If you condition your mind like this, you will not have a hard time reaching your orgasm..In short, dictate the brain in what you wanted to achieve.

2. Let the hand do the talking...caressing is important. While men are stimulated visually, women are fond of touch. Let your partner move his hands from your neck to your breast and playing with the nipples, cupping each breast gently and then guide it to the waist and down the main target sometimes its more romantic if you put your hand on top of his caressing hand to make him feel you allow him to explore and to give the signal that you want what he is doing at the same time dominating without offending him by guiding his hands on the part that you wanted him to touch

you would wonder why I am detailing what seems to be a prelude to sexual act. It is because all of these are important to achieving orgasm...

and if your partner combine 1 and 2...you will notice your heart beats faster and faster...


even by just reading this post seriously I know I have triggered your sexual desire. If you do, then you are on the right track because this feeling, what you are feeling right now should be the exact same feeling you should have during the sexual act. Fast heartbeat, pounding chest, dry throat and lips, maybe a hard nipple and a slightly wet feeling down below and the desire to have your love one with you or even the desire to play with yourself. If you achieved this it would not be hard for you to achieve orgasm.

3. Communication is important. This is the key to a happy sexual life. You should communicate with your partner what you want and what you prefer. It is not bad to be adventurous and try different ways to make love but there would always be one which both of you likes best.


I personally like to be in control...only come if I dictate the pace, the moves. So you could guess the position that I like best...Yes! on top...

Women naturally achieve orgasm longer. Men should be patient to do the foreplay however to sustain the urge the woman should reciprocate. It is not enough that women allow their partners to stimulate them to the point of exhausting them and make them loose their appetite. You should touch back..kiss..move with his touch and say erotic words to keep the fire burning. Otherwise you both will end up pissed off.

It takes experience to determine if your partner is about to come...and holding the orgasm makes it even more enjoyable and pleasurable...this part you should learn to master if you want to come together.

4. Compliment your partner but never fake orgasms...because if you do who lost in the end?...It is not good to pretend that you came just to satisfy your partner even if you don't. Remember you need to achieve orgasm for yourself and all the benefits it have and not just to please your partner.

5. The aftermath. The feeling of achieving climax is one of the most wonderful feeling. The sexual act is not only about sex its about the many psychological effect the act gives you. The feeling of something contacting inside you and something being released inside you is an affirmation of love , security and trust.


For me, the fact that I was able to make my partner come is a big reward because it means I never lost my femininity that I was able to bring him to the end, that I still have that effect on him and it assures me that he would not look for someone else to satisfy him. 


The fast heartbeat, all the sweating and gasping is a state of total emotional euphoria. If you have achieved orgasm this is how you will feel but if not you will feel the opposite, irritated and pissed off.


Some say that talking about sex is uncalled for, this is where inhibitions come in..this is when you cannot achieve an orgasm.


6. The after glow. It is true that achieving an orgasm changes everything and releases everything. Releases tension and stress, it gives you a happy outlook and thinking of the sexual act you did should inspire you to repeat it again. That's a good prelude to the next encounter.


for personal questions email me at docseree@hotmail.com.

VAGINAL PAIN AND DRYNESS...A Hindrance in Achieving an Orgasm

Orgasm is a state of heightened sexual satisfaction. It is a sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure.
They are often associated with muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation. The period after orgasm is often a relaxing experience.


What benefits do we get from having an orgasm?
-It can relax you when you are stressed, it produces a calming effect. 
-It can make you sleepy when you are tossing and turning. 
-It can brighten your day and put you in a good mood. 
-In addition to stress relief and helping you to relax so you can fall asleep, an orgasm helps you in other aspects of your well being. 
-Several studies show that having an orgasm can work as a natural pain reliever. When you have an orgasm, endorphins are released by your body during sex and can help to increase your tolerance of pain. 
-Orgasms can also help you burn calories. Certain research also shows that having an orgasm can calm your cravings for junk food as well as cigarettes, which is a very positive thing. 


Now knowing all the benefits of orgasm would you deprive yourself of it?




Vaginal dryness and pain on intercourse are the things that will hinder you from achieving your orgasm.
This occur when you are not very well stimulated or if you are nearing menopause. For the first one, the solution is simple know your weak points, condition your mind, communicate with your partner (read my post on how to achieve orgasm and enjoy every minute of it) to give you a longer foreplay but it is only a temporary solution 


If you want to have a long secure relationship you must choose a solution that would change the way you look at yourself and the way your partner sees you.


The MonaLisa Touch is a unique treatment that would solve vaginal dryness and pain on intercourse. It is a non surgical treatment that only trained specialists can do. No painful vaginal surgery, no limitation of sexual activity, no hormonal replacement therapy.  


Ask your gynecologist about it.

YOUR SEXUAL OBLIGATION to your PARTNER

You are reading my post because of two reasons, either you are intrigued if you really have an obligation or if you wanted to know the answers. Several people would react to my post and say in a sexual relationship no one is really obligated because a sexual act should be done in freewill. YES that is true. But the situation becomes different if you are in marriage. Part of your obligation as a wife is to fulfill the sexual needs of your husband. Of course it should also be mutual and not forced but you should be aware that such responsibility exists.

Do you know the reasons why most women especially those in their 40's refuse to have regular sexual activity with their husbands?

I have been an OB-GYN for 9 years already and I have encountered complaints from patients why they refuse to do the sexual act.
1. They feel pain on intercourse
2. They are not sexually aroused anymore
3. They feel vaginal dryness no matter how long the foreplay is and because of that there is difficulty in penetration which causes their husbands penis to die down upon entry.

Do you know that as man's age reached 40, the more they become sexually aggressive? As wives, you have to be able to sustain your sexual relation with your husband at this particular stage otherwise you will push them to find gratification from other women.

To start you may ask yourself these questions:

1. Have you ever felt pain during sexual intercourse?
2. Have you had less sex with your partner?
3. Have you felt vaginal dryness?
4. Have you forgotten to achieve orgasm?

If your answer is yes to any of the above. You should seek help but should not be worried. Contrary to what you formerly believed that Menopause or Perimenopause is a stage you cannot escape we now have solutions to the symptoms of menopause especially those that are sexually related.

Some patients justified their sexual incapacities and blame it on the menopausal stage. Some resort to hormonal replacement therapy just to be able to maintain their youthful glow however HRT are harmful with prolonged use.

I am very lucky to have attended this Vulvovaginal Laser Reshaping Course in Florence, Italy. It is a non surgical way to help you achieve sexual gratification by resolving the symptoms of dryness and pain. DEKA's new innovative technology that touches on the most intimate needs of a women will definitely help save relationships especially between husband's and wives.

Now you won't have any reason to say no to your partner and your husband won't have any more reason to find satisfaction from another woman.

This DEKA TECHNOLOGY that would Rejuvenate your vagina is UNIQUE in the world. All DEKA innovations are supported with clinical trials that means it has a scientific basis. It would be available soon in the PHILIPPINES and only at SHINAGAWA.

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On Mother's Day....my own " Mother's Day"

TODAY is Mother's Day all around the world....so I decided to delay my "CIAO ITALIA" travelogue to post this....

Being a sentimental mother you would somehow expect to wake up with a surprise just like what you see in the movies...husband cooking a special breakfast..a bouquet of flower, chocolates and love notes on the table or maybe a breakfast in bed. Cards from your children or just being extra nice to mommy during this day.

If all mothers would have the same expectations everytime during mother's day, all would wake up to dissappointment. I would rather wake up to reality...to the usual day than expect something special when people seem to be too nice in just one day just because it's " MOTHER'S DAY" then suddenly reverts back to normal the following day.

So what is mother's day celebration really all about?

in my readings..mother's day was proclaimed official on May 8, 1914 by President Woodrow Wilson through the efforts of Anna Jarvis who fought for recognition of mothers and that one day be devoted to them.

So it is in essence thanking your mother for taking care of you and for proper upbringing. This should be initiated by the ones who are being thankful. Admit it that days before mother's day, being a mother you expect your children to celebrate that day with you and you expect your husband to greet you as a sign of gratitude for rearing his children. Only a hypocrite would say she did not expect something different on this day.

I on the other hand expected something different. Since I have known my husband for 13 years and realized that he is not that kind of person who is literally "romantic"(..the last time I received a bouquet of white roses from him was April 27, 1998) I never expected flowers on this day. And because when he was courting me he only have written less than 10 love letters, why would I expect a love note on this day?. And chocolates? impossible because I have lots of Swiss Chocolates in the fridge from my recent travel in Florence. How about a special breakfast? well the maid has instruction already last night to cook hash browns and "longganisa".

So what do I really expect? just a day to spend quality time with my family....no hot heads or raising of voices...but it seems even expecting a little is very hard to achieve...

I woke up 11am...breakfast cooked already by our maid....hubby started to being hot headed again because the maid did not follow instructions and never remembers everything...and I being a cool person who happens to care less about household stuffs than my husband would never stress myself on little things like that.. I told him to cool down a little.

Then here is my daughter crying because daddy scolded him for answering back. I told my baby that daddy is not in the mood because of "yaya" and her answering back which daddy misinterpreted as a sign of disrespect and aggravated the situation even more. Daughter kissed me and greeted me Happy Mother's Day. Now we are in 3 separate corners of the room not talking to each other and facing our own computers.. they said when there is a storm sometimes better to let it pass than brave it. I still have 11 hours to celebrate mother's day but my question is "Should I really be celebrating it just like the people all around the world?". For me, unless people I love would make it really special there is nothing really special on this day.

We as mothers know our role in the family and from the very beginning we have given unconditional love to our husbands and children.We have learned not to expect anything in return. We have mastered the word forgiveness and sacrifice. We have practice self control and have struggled to make home a stress free environment..

So to mother's out there who has not received any special treatment or did not receive gifts never feel bad about it. People(our loved ones) differ, they differ in the way they express themselves..don't expect them to change just to make you happy for one day. Never envy other people and moms for that matter. What is important is you are together as a family and it is all that matters. Would you rather trade places with a mother who received a special greeting and gift from a husband who is miles and miles away working? I'm sure you won't.

So this is my "Mother's Day" to exercise my role in pacifying people around the house just to keep everything balanced..

Today is no extraordinary day...but I am happy being with my family even if we have our own indifferences.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!